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Peeling Back the Layers: Understanding the Core of Who You Are

Updated: Apr 2, 2023

In this blog we will explore the different layers of your being, including the physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual aspects. Understanding the different layers of yourself can help you recognize the interconnectedness of your thoughts, emotions, and physical sensations.

Also, at the very end there is are questions for reflection and a mindfulness practice. I hope to see you on the 9th April 10am PST 6pm UK for the FREE Mental Wellness Gathering. (Men/Women)

Our thoughts have a powerful impact on our body. When we have a thought, it can trigger a cascade of physiological responses that create a particular emotional state. For example, if we have a thought that is frightening or stressful, our bodies may respond with increased heart rate, muscle tension, and rapid breathing, which can lead to feelings of anxiety or panic.

These emotional states can then lead us to take action or trigger additional thoughts. For example, if we feel anxious, we may feel the urge to avoid the situation or take steps to reduce our perceived threat. Alternatively, we may have additional thoughts that reinforce our anxiety and create a negative feedback loop.

Conversely, if we have a thought that is positive or uplifting, our bodies may respond with a sense of relaxation or pleasure. This can lead us to feel more motivated, energized, or confident, which can then motivate us to take positive actions or pursue our goals.

The relationship between our thoughts, emotions, and actions is complex and dynamic. Our thoughts can influence our bodies and emotions, which in turn can influence our behaviors and further shape our thoughts. By becoming more aware of this process and cultivating a greater sense of mindfulness and self-awareness, we can learn to manage our thoughts and emotions more effectively, and take positive steps towards our goals and well-being.

Think of yourself as an onion, with each layer representing a different aspect of who you are. The innermost layer represents your past, which has been shaped by your genetic makeup and experiences. This layer is not visible to the naked eye, but it is a crucial part of who you are.

The next layer represents your experiences throughout your lifetime, which have left their mark on your body and mind. These experiences can be positive or negative, and they can have a significant impact on how you perceive the world around you.

The outermost layer represents your current experience and environment. This layer is the most visible to others, as it represents how you interact with the world on a day-to-day basis. Your environment can include everything from the people you interact with to the physical spaces you occupy.

All of these layers work together to keep you alive, but they can also interact in complex ways that can make it difficult to understand why you are feeling the way you are feeling or thinking the way you are thinking.

If you are struggling with your mental health, it may be helpful to try to understand these different layers of yourself. By recognizing the factors that contribute to your mental health, you can start to develop strategies for managing your symptoms and improving your overall well-being.

Remember, that you have a choice in how you respond to the difficult emotions and thoughts you may be experiencing. While it can be overwhelming and scary at times, there are tools and strategies that can help you navigate these challenges and build resilience.

I have been there. I struggled with my mental health since I was 11, and through many harmful practices, I distracted myself from the true pain I was carrying. At 19, I hit my worst, and it wasn't until I headed into a meditation center at 21 that I started to see the light. The journey has not been smooth or linear, but I can tell you that I am here, and I feel so grateful for the practices and people I have met who guided me back to my true self.

One of the first steps in this process is finding a safe space where you can take a moment to breathe and reflect. This could be a physical space, like a quiet room or outdoor environment, or it could be a mental space that you create for yourself through visualization or meditation.

From this safe space, you can begin to practice the tools and techniques that you can learn in our monthly FREE Mental Wellness Gatherings. These may include mindfulness practices, cognitive-behavioral strategies, or other therapeutic approaches that can help you be with everything that arises.

By learning to be comfortable with uncomfortable sensations and thoughts, and by practicing techniques for reducing the mind's labeling and judgment, you can begin to build a more compassionate and accepting relationship with yourself and your experiences.

The core of you, at the core of who you are, there is a part of you that has been with you since you were born. This part of you is not defined by your past experiences or the layers that may have accumulated over time, but instead represents your truest and most authentic self.

While it can be easy to get caught up in the thoughts and sensations, it's important to remember that these experiences do not define you. You are a multifaceted individual with unique strengths, talents, and perspectives that make you who you are.

Your journey towards healing and growth is unique to you, and there is no one "right" way to approach it. Be patient and compassionate with yourself as you work through the challenges that arise, and know that you are not alone in your struggles.

Ask yourself these questions:

  1. What am I feeling right now? This question can help you to tune in to your emotions and become more aware of how you are feeling in the present moment. By taking the time to check in with yourself regularly, you can develop a greater sense of self-awareness and build a more intentional and mindful approach to life.

  2. What can I learn from this experience? Whether you are going through a difficult time or celebrating a victory, asking yourself this question can help you to identify the lessons and insights that can be gleaned from your experiences. By reframing your challenges as opportunities for growth and learning, you can cultivate a sense of resilience and optimism that can help you navigate future challenges with greater ease.

  3. What do I need right now? This question can help you to identify your needs and take steps to meet them. Whether you need rest, connection, support, or something else entirely, taking the time to check in with yourself and prioritize your needs can help you to feel more grounded and resilient in the face of life's challenges.

Mindfulness Practice

Take a few deep breaths and bring your attention to the present moment. Notice the sensations in your body, the sounds around you, and the thoughts in your mind without trying to change or judge them. Just observe them with curiosity and non-judgment.

Next, pick a common task that you do every day, such as washing dishes, brushing your teeth, or taking a shower. As you engage in this task, bring your full attention to the experience. Notice the sensations, textures, and smells involved in the task. Observe the thoughts and feelings that arise as you perform the task without getting lost in them.

If your mind starts to wander, gently bring your attention back to the task at hand. Try to stay present and engaged with the experience as fully as possible, without judgment or distraction.

This practice can help you cultivate a greater sense of mindfulness and presence in your daily life, allowing you to appreciate the small moments and experiences that often go unnoticed.

I hope this serves you well. I hope to see you on the 9th April 10am PST 6pm UK for the FREE Mental Wellness Gathering.





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