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What is Authenticity?

At the core of authenticity lies a journey into our sensations—a quest to liberate ourselves from colonized thoughts that often dictate who we should be.

It prompts us to ask whether our internal and external realities are aligned. Yet, the path to living authentically isn’t always straightforward. We’re complex beings, comprising multiple facets, making this an ongoing journey.

This calls for introspection—a deep dive into our values. Whose values are guiding our choices, and how do we set healthy boundaries while honoring the multitude of facets within us?

Consider this scenario: you uphold the belief that everyone has the right to an opinion, yet certain opinions trigger strong emotions within you. Are these emotions rooted in your deeper values? Can you make space to remember your beliefs about the right to an opinion?

So, what does authenticity mean?

Dictionary Definition: the quality of being real or true

According to Brene Brown, authenticity involves the daily practice of shedding societal expectations and embracing our genuine selves—letting go of who we're expected to be and embracing who we truly are. She famously articulates, "Authenticity is the daily practice of letting go of who we think we're supposed to be and embracing who we are."

Dr Gabor Mate, emphasizes how many forsake their true selves, sacrificing authenticity in favor of pleasing others or maintaining relationships, even if they're detrimental. He reflects, "Most people abandon their true selves (authenticity) to please others and keep the relationships (attachments), even if they are ones that are toxic and destructive."

Osho's perspective revolves around staying true to oneself, advocating for a continuous alignment with our inner voice rather than succumbing to external pressures or opinions. He advises, "To be authentic means to remain true to your own being. How to remain true? Three things have to be remembered. One, never listen to anybody, what they say for you to be. Always listen to your inner voice, to what you would like to be; otherwise your whole life will be wasted."

Rupert Spira suggests that the more deeply connected we are with our essential self, the more authentic we become. Dissatisfaction often arises when we lose touch with our true being, leading to a sense of purposelessness. He explains, "The more deeply we are in touch with our essential self, the more authentic we are. If someone is dissatisfied with their life, it is because they have lost touch with their true being and have therefore also lost a sense of meaning or purpose in what they do."

Scientifically, authenticity is construed as congruence between one's inner experiences, values, beliefs, and outward expressions. Psychological research often delves into 'self-concordance,' where individuals pursue goals aligned with their core identity and values, fostering a sense of authenticity.

In summary, authenticity encapsulates a harmony between our inner truth and external expression, a journey of embracing who we truly are despite societal pressures or external influences.

Consider for a moment the impact of your lack of authenticity on others and yourself. How can this cause harm? (Write down anything that arises)

Truth, Opinion and, Belief.

Understanding these words allows for clearer self-expression, supporting you to articulate your thoughts and feelings more accurately. It opens a space for honest self-reflection, empowering alignment of actions with personal values and desires. It can bring a deep respect for diverse perspectives, nurturing an environment open to authentic expression and open dialogue.

Please go deeper with each word and let me know if you think anything needs to be added.

Truth: Objective and unwavering; it's THE truth, regardless of personal perspectives or beliefs.

Opinions: Subjective viewpoints are shaped by personal experiences, preferences, and perspectives. They're not necessarily rooted in objective reality and can vary among individuals. Everyone has the right to an opinion, but opinions don't necessarily equate to truth.

Beliefs: Personal convictions or ideas held to be true, often based on faith or values. Unlike facts, beliefs can't be scientifically tested or proven.

Quotes like "I think I know, therefore I absolutely know!" highlight the subjective certainty that often accompanies personal beliefs or opinions, blurring the line between subjective conviction and objective truth.

Dialogues often contain indicators of opinions or beliefs, such as "It seems to me," "I think," "I believe," or "In my opinion," allowing space for differing perspectives.

Notice statements that shut down dialogue or dismiss opposing views, such as "You are wrong," "I am right," or demeaning comments like "You have no taste," as they inhibit constructive discussions and respect for differing opinions.

A Map Back to Your Heart

Take some time each week to make some time to explore these points, be gentle, go slow and remember this is the journey.

1. Self-Reflection:

- What values and beliefs guide your life?

- What matters most to you? What brings you a sense of fulfillment and aliveness?

2. Purpose and Meaning:

- What gives your life meaning?

- Which activities or pursuits make you feel most fulfilled?

3. Values and Beliefs:

- What are your core values? Relationships, Career, Finances, Health, Sexuality, Mental Health, Life Balance, Spirituality, Community, Nature, Collective (continue....)

- Are your actions aligned with these values? How do your beliefs influence your decisions?

4. Relationships aka Your Tribe:

- Reflect on your relationships—are they supportive and nourishing?

- How do you contribute to fostering healthy relationships in your life?

5. Challenges and Growth:

- What challenges have you faced, and how have they shaped you?

- In what ways have you grown from these experiences?

6. Gratitude and Appreciation:

- What are you grateful for in your life?

- How does practicing gratitude impact your perspective?

7. Self-Image and Identity:

- How do you perceive yourself?

- How does your identity influence the choices you make?

8. Health and Well-being:

- Reflect on your physical, mental, and emotional health.

- What habits contribute positively or negatively to your well-being?

9. Balance and Priorities:

- Are you living a balanced life?

- What are your priorities, and how do you allocate your time and energy towards them?

10. Dreams and Aspirations:

- What are your dreams for the future?

- Are there aspirations you've set aside and wish to revisit?

11. Impact and Contribution:

- How do you contribute to your community or society?

- What kind of legacy do you aim to leave behind?

12. Embracing Vulnerability:

- How comfortable are you with being open and honest in expressing yourself?

- What fears or barriers prevent you from embracing vulnerability?

13. Self-Compassion:

- How do you treat yourself during times of imperfection or mistakes?

- Are you accepting of yourself while acknowledging room for growth?

14. Setting Boundaries:

- Do you understand and communicate your boundaries effectively?

- How do you ensure your needs and priorities are respected, even if they differ from others' expectations?

15. Exploring Passions:

- What activities or pursuits resonate most with your authentic self?

- How do these activities connect you to your core identity?

16. Mindfulness and Awareness:

- How often do you practice mindfulness in observing your thoughts and reactions without judgment?

- How does this self-awareness help you understand yourself better?

18. Healing Past Wounds:

- Have past emotional wounds affected your sense of authenticity?

- Have you considered seeking therapy or counseling to address unresolved emotional issues that might hinder your authentic self-expression?

I go much deeper into this on the recording, hope you get time to check it out.



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